Child Arrangements after Separation – Scotland

Parents have equal rights and responsibilities for their children, as defined in section 1 of the Children Act (Scotland) 1995:

Parental Responsibilities

To safeguard and promote the child’s health, development and welfare
To provide, in a manner appropriate to the stage of development of the child, direction and guidance
If the child is not living with the parent, to maintain personal relations and direct contact with the child on a regular basis
To act as the child’s legal representative.
Parental Rights

To have the child living with you or otherwise to regulate the child’s residence
To control, direct or guide, in a manner appropriate to the stage of development of the child, the child’s upbringing
If the child is not living with you, to maintain personal relations and direct contact with the child on a regular basis
To act as the child’s legal representative.
Who has Parental Responsibilities and Rights?

A biological mother will automatically have PRR, regardless of marital status.
A father automatically obtains PRRs in two situations –
1 – Where he was/is married to the child’s mother at the date of conception or any time thereafter
2 – Where the father has not married the child’s mother he will automatically obtain PRRs if he is registered as the child’s father. This rule only applies on or after 4th May 2006, which is when the Family Law (Scotland) 2006 came into force.
Unmarried fathers registered prior to this date do not obtain automatic PRRs.  However, PRRs can be obtained either by way of a formal agreement with the mother or by making an application to the sheriff court or Court of Session under s 11 of the Children (Scotland) Act 1995. I have recently blogged about the continuing disadvantage of unmarried fathers
Agreeing Arrangements for Children                                                                   

It is recommended that separating/divorcing couples try very hard to reach an amicable agreement as to the residency and contact arrangements for the children. A useful tool is the Scottish Government’s Parenting Agreement, which can be downloaded from the Scottish Government’s website

If you are having difficulty reaching agreement then, before rushing to the lawyers, it is well worth trying to use the available counselling or mediation services such as those provided by Relationships Scotland.

If you cannot agree on the arrangements the matter can be settled by the courts. Any application for an order relating to parental responsibilities and rights must be made under section 11 of the Children Act (Scotland) 1995.

If there is a dispute in respect of children and the action is being defended in the sheriff court, the next step in proceedings is a Child Welfare Hearing. The sheriff may also order such a hearing in other instances where they consider it appropriate.
This is intended to bring about the quick resolution of disputes about children, proving that this can be done in a manner consistent with the child’s welfare. All parties are required to attend the hearing personally and are under a duty to provide the sheriff with as much information as possible so that he or she can take whatever steps necessary to deal with the matter.
HEARINGS

Option Hearing –

An Options Hearings is purely procedural and the sheriff has no power to make an order. Instead he/she is trying to make an informed decision as to what should be the next step in the court procedure. The Options Hearing is intended to give parties a chance to meet before the sheriff in order to ascertain if agreement can be reached without proceeding to a CWH or, if this is not possible, to focus the precise disagreement between parties.

Child Welfare Hearing

A Child Welfare Hearing is a fairly informal affair, intended to bring about the quick resolution of contact disputes, aiming to resolve the problem(s) and bring about agreement, if at all possible. A child welfare hearing is fairly informal and usually held in private, with only the parties and their legal representatives and the Sheriff usually being present. . The child’s welfare will be the court’s paramount consideration.

The sheriff will ascertain from parties, or their solicitors if they are to be represented, what matters are in dispute in relation to the child. Parties provide the Sheriff with information relating to the issues in dispute.
Solicitors (or the party litigant) put each side’s case to the Sheriff, then after discussion, if an agreement can’t be reached, the sheriff will set out a timetable how to proceed. The sheriff may make interim orders, or refers both parties to a family mediator, like Relationships Scotland.

If parties are unable to reach agreement, disputes may have to be decided after often lengthy and expensive ‘proof hearings’ where the parties give spoken evidence and are subject to cross examination, and where witnesses may also be called to the hearing to provide testimony, or supply a written affidavit.

Under Section 11(7) of the Children Act (Scotland) 1995, the court shall, so far as it is practical, take into account a child’s age and maturity, and the court will give the child the opportunity to express his views and thoughts, should he wish to, and give due consideration and regard to those views the child expresses.
A child is also entitled to his own legal representation if necessary. The action is required to be intimated to the child, and his views must be taken into account by the court. Usually, a child aged 12 years or more will be considered by the Court to be considered of sufficient age and maturity however, it’s possible for children younger than 12 years to present their views to the Court, if they have a formed view.

A child’s views may sought and represented in a number of different ways: the Sheriff may interview the child in Chambers privately, without parents or a third party being present, or the child may be invited to attend the hearing, or a bar reporter may be appointed by the Court in order to obtain the child’s views.

The most important factor in any decision by the court regarding children is the consideration of the child’s/children’s welfare – this is paramount at all times. (See section 11(7) of the Children Act (Scotland) 1995). The Court would also consider those involved in the application, ie the mother and father. While the mother, by de-facto, has a relationship with the child, the onus is on the father to prove his reasoning for either applying for or for defending the application, so motive would be a consideration. The courts would consider if those involved, ie the parents are able, or will be able, to co-operate with sufficient willingness.

The Courts may also consider the arrangements for the non-resident parent to see their child/children, if the resident parent doesn’t agree with the contact arrangements; the Court may make a Contact Order. Other factors are: the domestic living arrangements of the child currently in place, the person/parent best able to meet the daily needs of the child/children, the working arrangements of the person applying for the order, and whose arrangements are most conducive to the primary needs and care of the child, and in the case of very young children, the Court makes the assumption that the children are better left in the care of the mother – however each case is based on its own merits, and the suitability of all parties is considered.

Contact orders

Where courts are required to and do make decisions, parents must stick by them. These decisions are enforceable. If a parent fails to obey the terms of a Court Order he or she could be held to be in contempt of court and liable for punishment for that contempt.

Court decisions on children recognise the possible need for change. Where a parent applies to vary previous decisions, courts normally require that the parent should demonstrate that the change in circumstances was important (or ‘material’). The person seeking change would have to satisfy the court that the best interests of the child would be served by altering what had previously been decided. Although ‘ Parental Agreements’ may be new to the courts, they would almost certainly approach them in the same way. Any change would have to be in the best interests of the child.

 

(c) Ruth Langford

21 thoughts on “Child Arrangements after Separation – Scotland”

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  2. colin craig said:

    i do believe that in theory this would be great if it was actualy stuck to, on friday i recieved a letter from my ex wifes lawyer telling me i will no longer be seeing my daughter as she believes the joint custody arangement we had was effecting my daughters school work and just like that shes gone. Theres nothing i can do but sit around and weight god knows how long till it gets heard in a court. Whereas if this was the other way round my ex would have phoned the police they would have came and took my daughter and returned her to her mother. So from my personal experience i can certainly say fathers DO NOT have equal rights.

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    • Craig, thank you for your comment, and I’m sorry to hear of the current situation regarding your daughter. Have you attempted family mediation or offered it? Relationships Scotland offer such services – and indeed a Sheriff would expect parents to have attempted mediation prior to attending court. Please make sure you are getting the right help and advice – have a look at Wikivorce.com for support and advice.

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    • Joy Blair said:

      May I make the observation that mothers who are not the resident carers are equally subject to the vagrancies of the system and the whims of the parent with residency. I have read with growing irritation complaints that ‘fathers’ are some how singled out for ill-treatment in the matter of child contact.

      My former spouse has just advised that I will not see my daughter for 6 weeks because of an arbitrary rule he created that I must advise him on and only on the Monday before the Friday that I have contact that I will in fact collect her.

      In 2 long years without my daughter I have never failed to collect her on the date that he has appointed. It is a 200 mile round trip twice every other weekend for me. The only times I have not collected her is when he had decreed I cannot and has told the school to ensure I do not. There is and never has been a question of welfare involved. He is a nasty individual – so please don’t try to tell me that all fathers are hard done-by in cases of contact and mothers are the villains. It isn’t true.

      I have attempted mediation once with my former spouse and he ranted so much it was like having garbage thrown at me for an hour.

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  3. I’m trying to get my kids father to spend more time with them also to pay something to help keep them in a happy life but his new girlfriend won’t allow this to happen

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    • Hi Caroline, thank you for your comment. I’m sorry to learn that you are in a difficult situation. Have you considered family mediation with Relationships Scotland to help you and your ex work through the issues and come to a resolution? I would also suggest you join the Wikivorce community forum for support and help from other parents – http://www.wikivorce.com

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  4. His new girlfriend won’t let him near me so mediation isn’t something he will do

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    • LORNA DICKSON said:

      My ex husband has had prr of our kids with myself having thm 5pm Friday to 5pm Sunday. This agreement has never been stuck to and kids stay at mines whenever I am not working and can keep them. Tonight I had to call police out as my ex husband was trying to get my 14 years old daughter out my house but she was afraid of him and wanted to remain at my house. she has stayed at my house for 7 weeks. he has texted me saying she better be at his by 5pm sunday as state in court order or he will be phoning the police. I have 3 other kids who are staying at his house tonight. hopefully I still get them to stay at mines tomorrow. I work unsocial hours in homecare. my kids are 8, 10, 13 and 14. can he make my 14 yr old back to his house to stay.

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  5. mike grist said:

    It started like this: i got married 9 years ago and we had 3 children but 1 had passed away, at the same time the mother of my children neglected them showed no love and support and walked out many times, i gave her many chances to redeem herself and show can be a great mother but chose not too even after we had lost a child. even then she wasn’t interested in the funeral of our son. i had full care of our children since birth till 2014. i started a relationship at the beginning of 2012 with a amazing women who had 2 children of her own and was pregnant with a little girl ( the father walked out before was born) i stepped up and was a full time father as all children should have both parents.
    Then this crucial event happened: October 2014 a incident appeared where i shouted at my ex partner not my wife, because her behaviour in the past year from 2013 to 2014 was growing stronger where she saw my son as a difficult child and treated him different then her own in a much stronger manner when came to discipline. she had always kept her children and mine as separate families and could not bring to her heart to become one family.. i tried to leave the house with my children as i was protecting them from people that are not nice to them. the child gate broken but still worked, and my partner at the time stood in-front of the gate and stopped me leaving, i asked her politely to move away but refused, i pulled the gate off and took my children , i could not find my child’s shoes because i was upset and anxious i threw the shoes across the hall searching for my sons shoes. she continued to argue with me, not in front of our children.
    i left the house at 2.30, and contacted my sons support worker i had for him, begging for there help. little did i know they would use it against me by social work that then was dragged into the picture.
    at this time around Thursday 16Th 2014 i had rang my sons mother and asked if she would take the children for the weekend only, and explained what had happened. social rang me and stated that my children would remain there permanently.
    i was asked to go to the police station to answer questions relating to 16Th October, arrested me stating that i pushed my partner and child abuse, but was not convicted and no evidence.
    i was looking after every single child on my own as my partner at the time was working nights and resting during the day to provide for the family (her decision). i did everything from routines structure cleaning shopping meals homework to school runs every day, and i enjoyed every minute.
    It ended like this: my children have to remain with mothers ie.3 and i am not allowed to have my children back or see speak or cuddle
    social stopped me seeing any of my children as they stated I’m not capable of looking after more then 1 child at a time based on the supervised 1 hour contact i had in social work Grangemouth.
    social clearly stated that i could not identify strengths and weaknesses or abusive behaviour etc.. and had a scoring system 5 was bad 1 good i was at 5 the entire time although i had cooperated with them the entire time.social had manipulated all my children to get what they want and stop contact, seems to me the favour is with any mother and not a capable father who has achieved so much is left with NOTHING
    Social work had left me with nothing to live for there was two times i wanted to end my life till my noble friend reminded me why i need to be here, i explained to him, how can i fight for something that may never happen unless i have someone who would help me 100%
    the social and police had my two boys stripped down in Lambert hospital to check to see if i had hurt them in anyway, of course there was nothing as i do NOT hit or bully my children as they are my world.
    Social and police had left is 2 weeks before interviewing my son, i had bail out not to contact, anyone could of said anything to him prior to his interview with police. my ex wife was against me
    The letter i have from my doctor, social work did not like the good that was present in that letter and argued with my doctor, looking for bad only clearly stating i was a great father and that my doctor was devastated that my children were put with there neglectful mother.
    if you suggest mediation to me is a pointless act as my ex wife, ex fiancée and ex girlfriend has moved to a unknown addresses and no-one will give me that address.
    all i want is to see my children again, all of them. been a father 12 years and NEVER had this before.

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  6. Hello , I was wondering if anybody can help , I live in
    London and my daughter lives in Edinburgh , I maintained
    Contact for the past two years , and recently after finding a new partner , my ex will not let me see my daughter , unfortunately mediation is not an option and I would like to know the first steps on how to start proceedings to see my daughter , will it need to be via a solicitor or can I apply personally to a court ? Many thanks Gavin.

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  7. Mr partners ex spouse hasn’t paid any ailment in 5 years but demands access as and when he feels like it. My partner has sole custody. Is she entitled to refuse access when the ex spouses behavior is threatening, abusive and disruptive to the children’s education and well being.

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  8. My daughters ex husband had the children for the weekend and has kept them, the children do not like staying with him and he has now prepped my grandaughter not to tell her mum she misses her or give her a kiss when she sees her. My grandson and grandaughter were not allowed out of the back of the car to see my daughter and everyones telling my daughter theres nothing she can do as he has PR.. the children are devastated and look really sad as they think their mum doesnt want them – they have never been away from her except a couple of days sometimes when he seen them. So much for having the childrens best interest at heart. This man (if you can call him that) has completely fabricated stories to Social Services in Scotland and England about her to make her look like shes an unfit mother. He is a manipulator, deceitful and a liar and did i also mention he is not a UK citizen he is Nigerian who also blackmailed her and NOTHING has been done to help these children get back to their mother. Social Services has said that they cant do anything as he has PR. Where is the law to ensure foreign nationals cannot do this?

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  9. My husband is a wonderful person who cares for his kids deeply. He sees them less than he wishes, always due to the ex-wife reducing the time he has – and he is asked to “respect the wishes of the children” – children that, when asked, cannot remember what they were doing that they didn’t come last time or why they are leaving early this trip. It’s so unfair.

    His ex is all about control and it’s killing my husband. He pays every penny that is asked of him, and takes time to see the kids whenever he can, always picking them up and dropping them off so she has to do nothing. We have spent a fortune through solicitors, but they have now said that she is all about control and money and will never negotiate with him. What can we do?

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  10. Laura macintyre said:

    My 15 yesr old daughter & my 5 year old skn are both living with my mother and father after a recent falling out with my partner of 19 years as we are back together now my mother is refusing to give back my children although my daughter wants to continue to live there my son wants his mum & dad child protection are involved my mother allows my partner to go see my son but I haven’t seen him for 4 weeks my hearts breaking its gut wrenching she hates me I sent them there voluntary I have not sighned anythong with social work I wanted to know what happens next as its going to a case conference with socisl work which I never had any involvement with before this happened what do I do next as I am nott talking to my parent’s

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  11. Can I private message you?

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  12. Annette Ford said:

    Can a great aunt see her great nephews??

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  13. Neil nunro said:

    I work as hoc in the oil industry some 140 days a year so my solicitor has advised me that it would be difficult to get a court order for access due to my not knowing which days I am home. My ex wife refuses mediation and has reduced my contact from typically 4 days a week when I am home, to now 4 days every second week. The reduction in contact although she won’t admit it is due to my working away less now, meaning that if contact was maintained at 4 days every week, she will get less child maintenance (she gets nearky a thousand a month). I am at an absolute loss what to do). The children are 7 and 10 and very unhappy also at the reduction in contact.

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  14. Michele Murney said:

    My niece has been unable to see her daughter in months her farther told loads of lies at court and still we are no further forward. My niece saw her daughter with her gran in the high street , when the gran seen my niece she took the child’s hand and starting running. Poor wee Amy waved at her mother and looked frightened how is this allowed to happen. The court ordered a supervised visit which never happened?

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  15. Kirsten Fiona Greenhill said:

    What happens when the children get to 12 and her older sister of 15 and whilst my ex and I had agreed equal custody, they are not happy to be with their Dad for that amount of time. Do they have the right to say that they are not going or will I get taken to court for not enforcing the agreement made at separation?

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  16. Francesco said:

    Did you know you need to provide a writt to get visiting rights enforced.

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